12 bad habits in dealing with many people

Whether in work or life, communication always plays a very important role. Any environment and at any time, understanding how to behave properly, listening more and understanding more will make it easier for us to connect with others. Especially for those who are working in business, sales, customer care or public relations, communication skills become even more significant.

It is for this reason that a small mistake also entails numerous different troubles, can even completely break your relationship. However, if you understand and change the 12 bad habits below, you can completely confident in your ability to behave.

1. Instead of saying "we", use "me" continuously.

It may sound confusing, but if you look, you'll realize that many people have a habit of "Follow me .", "I think .", "I want .", "I need . "," You're wrong . "," Better ". . when working as a team. In fact, no one likes it all the time to follow other people's opinions, so the rising "me" makes you mistakenly believe that asserting your position in every situation is always right. However, do not forget that you are working in a group and you are a member of it. Work to solve problems, not to become heroes or efforts to defeat anyone.

2. Look in the other direction when talking

How many times are you talking to your friends, relatives, colleagues . but only focusing on your phone or computer? Whether it is unintentional or unintentional, many people have suffered from this and have been "treated" by someone else: trying to tell a story but no one has noticed . Think about your feelings at this time: exasperated, annoyed and just want to tell them that. They are the same.

Watching the clock while talking to other people is an expression of disrespect, impatience, and too much ego. This unfriendly gesture also sends a message to the other person that you want to do other things instead of talking to them.

Turning your back on the opposite person in conversations is also one of the most taboo that many successful people recommend to young people never to make. Because this behavior implies that you are not comfortable talking to them and that this reaction is even more harsh than the straightforward statement " I don't want to continue the story".

"Look straight into the eyes of the opponent when you apologize. All human emotions are reflected in the eyes. If you want to apologize sincerely, look straight into the eyes of the opponent, surely you will receive sympathy ".

3. Interrupt others

Interrupting others seems to be a habit of many people. Maybe, because the opponent doesn't know how to chat in an attractive way or simply you can't wait to give your opinion. Women tend to interrupt others because they are afraid to forget the next thing to say and they want to say when they are in the mood. Meanwhile, men often interrupt others because they want to assert their authority. Whatever the reason, it seems like you still want to show "I'm more important than you". This is an extremely bad habit that needs to change immediately.

4. Using too much body language

Body language reflects 90% of what we want to say. You waved your arms too much, you shook your head, crossed your legs, covered your ears, closed your eyes or rolled your eyes continuously . These are all unpleasant signs that make other people feel that you are not really pay attention to the story they are saying, such as:

Crossing your arms or crossing your legs to some extent suggests you don't want to take what others are saying. In this case, whether you smile or try to respond, the other person will have a thought that perhaps they should stop talking to you.

Grimace is a gesture anyone should avoid. Because, when the face is not fresh or unhappy about something, it will greatly affect everything around you.

Nodding even though it is not so important, however, if in negotiations or communicating with customers, nodding too much will create unnecessary doubts.

Does the hair in the conversation mean you are worried about something? Will you have other appointments or a work in progress? No matter what you are talking to, once you are talking to others, you should not show it outside, unless it is very close to you.

Shoulderlessness is a sign of disrespect. Surely you will never have enough confidence to tell the boss that "I don't understand why I have to listen to him" but if you slouch, you really reacted more intensely than anything. you want to say

The handshake too fast, strong or too weak also makes others feel that you are not friendly. In particular, there is a case of a shy handshake also makes the enemy think that they have something that is not satisfied with you.

When talking to others, try not to stand too close to them . Because, if you do the opposite, they will make them feel uncomfortable when they confide and still doubt what you mean by that?

5. Reply in an absurd way

Have you ever said anything to someone and felt uncomfortable because they really didn't pay attention to anything? What they reacted to was merely "Mmmmm hmmmm ." or "yes ." and you also had it. In this case, try to say a few more sentences like "Yes, what I heard was when I was late, would you worry? Did I hear correctly?". Choose a suitable way of speaking, which will make them understand that you not only hear them but also try to re-express them to tell them that you heard them.

6. Revealed as "knowledgeable" person

You roll your eyes at others and say "Even though I haven't heard the story yet, I understand what you're going to say" . Maybe you understand, maybe not but never do it. When others are wanting to share, listen, don't interrupt and don't show yourself "on the smart, under the geographical wall".

7. Let emotions dominate what you say

A small incident but because you don't know how to control your emotions, you let it "burn" and then work, your life is affected. A light debate but just because of me is so big that you use harsh words and overly strong body language, causing offense to the opponent. All are habits that need to change.

8. Do not express the will to listen

"Tell me about it" or "So how do you feel about this?" is one of the good ways to make people understand that you want to hear the story again.

9. Keep telling your story

You just keep talking about your life, your family and your work regardless of whether others are listening or do they really understand what you have said?Never consider yourself the center of the story.

10. Focus "look at" other people's personalities without listening to what they say

When someone is sharing or chatting with you, really listen instead of trying to "read" their personality. Understanding the personality of others to know how to steer a story in a positive way is a good thing but don't overdo it.

11. Too many words "but"

It may sound confusing but it will be simpler if you pay attention to this example " I'm sorry but will I bother you?"; "This is really a bad idea but ."; "Yes, that's right, you're bothering me" . Did you understand the problem?

Limit the word "but", instead, it is consistent and firm.

12. No eye contact

Often if the eyes do not have normal movements such as blinking or rolling eyes in the direction of the opposite person, you may be presumed there is something you want to hide. In addition, avoiding eye contact will also reduce your confidence in negotiations. However, this does not mean that you need to turn around or blink constantly.

Another thing is that looking down, glaring, or rolling your eyes while someone is talking to you about their work will also make you have bad images in the eyes of others.