18 signs that you are complicated by life

Modern life makes many people feel stressed, rushed and in a circle with no destination. You feel that things are complicated, impossible to remove, even the same and gradually, the concepts of "positive" disappear completely in your thoughts. In fact, life is not difficult to "define" like that, simply that you are making it complicated.

Perhaps what you need now is not to try to complete all the unfinished work, but to slow down a bit, breathe and think . When you do too much work in a day, you will not be able to remember what you have done and it is also impossible to feel happy because you have completed something. You are too tired and need to rest immediately.

The following 18 signs are bad habits that make life so complicated that you need to change. Please read carefully and see if I am falling into this situation myself.

Don't make life complicated because it's so simple

1. Delayed

It is not too difficult to understand why delay, delay makes us feel so complicated and complicated: Projects continue to be on the deadline, documents are stacked, and the list of jobs is long. in many pages and a computer screen is full of notes . If we don't do what we need to do at times we know, it should be done, soon everything will become chaotic.

2. Worry

"Worry is the mother of life" - Worry is the starting point of a complicated life . The more you worry, the more serious the problem becomes and you cannot be alert enough to find a solution. Certainly there will be times when you face some small, even, not enough problems to become a problem but because of the habit of "tearing out" you turn them into an obsession. So, instead of spending energy to worry, use it to find solutions.

3. Wait

There is never a so-called "perfect time", but many people still wait. This job seems to be unfavorable now so please wait for a better time to do it, this dream is too far away so please wait for a while or this project is too difficult so don't do it . We Wait, wait and keep waiting while at the present time, we have enough time, energy and other support to complete them. Slowing down a bit when you lose your balance or can't control is great, but waiting for opportunities while you are able to catch it right away is a waste.

Don't wait any longer when you can start

4. Say yes to everything

You "get yes" to everything and to everyone but the problem lies in: you can make others happy but you are very tired yourself. Do things that are committed very well but don't be too weak because you have the right to say NO if you don't want to.You can't please everyone.

5. Depends on others

It may sound unbelievable but be honest that most of the things we did, we all want others to like it and if we don't get positive feedback, you may feel sad, even, down. low self-worth / value. Remember that, you are born in the world to like what you do, love what you do and think what you want to think, create your own life, not live on the thoughts and feedback of people other. Don't be afraid to go the way you want to go because no one lives for you.

Your life is your message - live to spread

6. Embrace but low efficiency

It is clear that we are busy but the actual efficiency is very low. "Multitasking" will be good unless you know how to control and optimize each job but if you do more things that make you become disoriented, slow down.

7. Control instead of connecting

When you try to control more, you will not fully grasp the meaning of what is happening around you. Control is not a goal in life but a connection.Connect with people you love instead of trying to control them. For example, simply that you learn to understand, share and connect with your children but do not attempt to control them. Certainly, if this is the case, you will feel tired, even pressure of responsibility. Don't expect too big to accept everything that will happen to you.

8. "Always confine the birds while they need to fly"

It is not difficult to understand if you think about what happened a few years ago and until now, you are always obsessed. People who have gone through your life, whether they have treated you well or badly, if that has happened, let those things sink into the past.Relax yourself by not holding anything too tight. If so, you will feel very depressed every time you lose something. Please accept the change. Give yourself the opportunity to get rid of what is not needed to make room for more wonderful new opportunities.

Learn how to accept everything

9. Judgment

A very common habit is that we often like to judge and evaluate things even if we don't understand them. The need to express a good opinion or "express yourself" is always in every person, but it is important that each of us needs to control.Stop judging and start learning how to love more. If someone is not suitable for you, please leave instead of misleading (maybe) about them.

10. Take a step, then . take two steps back

More precisely, hesitation. You are always wondering whether you should start, continue or stop. You see the possibilities, you advance, you face obstacles and then you decide to give up all. Life is always full of opportunities and possibilities if each of us broadens our vision and heart with every failure.Be patient and believe in whatever you want, you will win it. Keep your head high and don't let the "sound" of failure overwhelm you.

11. Complaining

We feel stressed about doing something without seeing the benefits. Complaints almost can't change anything. When we focus on the next plan, new development, new level, a bigger house, a bigger car, a more suitable partner (for those who have just failed in a relationship / certain marriage) or another important person - we will ignore all the unpleasant things that happened.Be happy and thank you for what you are.

Simplify your life

12. There is no priority

You do not need to focus on everyone and everything. The world still happens exactly as it does even when you stop working, you travel, you nap or you don't do anything. Creating limits will affect who you are, what you believe and where you are. It is not a sign of weakness or failure when you cannot control something; It is an opportunity for you to show your strengths. When you know when you should say yes and when to say no, you will control what you are doing.When you respect your limits, others will respect your limits.

13. Compare yourself with others

Someone once said "Don't compare your movie to someone else's script" (roughly: Do n't compare your movie to the manuscript of another person). A better understanding is not to compare chapter 1 in your work with chapter 20 in someone else's work. Live your own life, creating changes that you know can do and be faithful to that path. Comparing yourself to others means you have put your own defeat on yourself.

Live and do what you want

14. Lack of sincerity

Lack of sincerity is the way that leads you to breakdown and crisis. You must be honest with yourself and others. Choose to believe in the truth and ignore the lies. However, not just words, be sincere both in thoughts, attitudes and actions.

15. No forgiveness

Do not let sadness, suffering or feelings of disappointment about those who have caused you to hurt your weakened heart. Being constantly hated or angry will make the situation worse. Freedom is when you let these emotions not affect your life.Learn to forgive more to see that everything happens has its reasons.

Everything that happens has its reasons

16. Selfish

The increasingly modern life makes many people gradually turn themselves into the center of the "universe" without caring about others. What you want, what you like, what you do, what your plan is, how much money you can make, where you go, what food you eat and more . all are friends. No one else. Being too concerned about yourself will cause you to ignore a lot of great things around so change right before it's too late.Don't isolate yourself in the big world. "Give - Serve - Love" - "Give away to serve others and receive love".

17. Do not nurture relationships

Whether you are an introvert or an introvert, a public person or an ordinary person, you cannot live without relationships. We are created to integrate with the community. The happiest people in the world always know how to create deep, sincere and meaningful relationships.

Establish relationships but you have to nurture it, develop it and engage it.Many but must be deep and meaningful, not indifferent.

Live simpler to see that life has many wonderful things

When you're with people we really care about, really love, that's the best thing in life that anyone must keep.

18. Evade

Nobody likes conflict, conflict. Whenever we feel the conversation is going in a stressful way, we all immediately withdraw to bring ourselves back to safety. However, this will make you gradually become weak and irresponsible. The more you escape, the bigger the thing becomes, so it's best to learn how to face it.

If you are only looking for fun and peace, you will not be able to be tougher than the sudden storms. Therefore, be ready to participate in the confrontations, give opinions and gain experience for yourself.Remember that life is a great experience that only when you dare go do you recognize them.