The letter the father sent his daughter and the life lesson 'No one owes you anything'

Harry Browne, an American writer and businessman, wrote this letter in 1966 to his daughter at about 9 years old. Because it contained so many valuable and extremely meaningful lessons, the letter quickly attracted the attention of millions of people around the world.

"No one owes you anything

It is coming to Christmas and my father is having problems when he does not know what gift he should give. I know, maybe I like a lot of things: books, games, clothes.

But he was selfish. Dad wants to give me something that can be with me more than a few months or years. Dad wants to give me a gift that will make me remember my father when Christmas comes.

If I could only give you one thing, my father wanted it to be a simple fact that it took Dad years to realize. If you learn it from now on, perhaps, it will make your life better in many ways, helping you face problems that can hurt others that you never knew.

The simple fact is: Nobody owes you anything.

Human life is impermanent - there is nothing that stays in one place forever, but on the contrary, they always move, change every day. Because life will always have events, joys or sadness intertwined and you are born in the world to learn how to control all that. You may have the right to expect good luck but there is no guarantee that they will happen, just like no one is forced to be good with you. You are supposed to make an effort to get it: No one owes you anything.

Understanding this, the thought of "borrowing life - debt - life" will no longer be a burden.

Meaning

Why is this simple affirmation important? It may not be but if you understand, it will bring good luck to your whole life.

Nobody owes you anything.

This means no one in this life lives for the baby, dear. Because no one is like a child. Everyone must live their own lives; A person's happiness is all that they themselves feel.

When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything, you will feel comfortable when you receive something that does not happen as you like.

It also means that no one has to love their children. If someone loves you, that's because there's something special from you that makes them feel happy. Look for something special in you and make it stronger, you will be loved more.

When people do something for you, that's because they want - because you, in a way - give them something meaningful that makes them want to be happy, not because they owe you anything.

No one has to like you. If your friends want to be with you, that's not an obligation. Look for things that will make others happy in you and they will want to be friends with you longer.

No one has to respect you. Some people even treat you badly. But once you realize that no one has to be good with you and perhaps don't need it well, you will learn to avoid those who make you suffer. I don't owe them anything.

Live your life. Nobody owes you anything.

That debt itself is the best person possible. Because, if you are like that, others will want to be with you, want to give you many things in exchange for what you will bring to them.

Some people choose not to be with their children because the reasons have nothing to do with their children. When that happens, look at other relationships that you feel satisfied. Don't make someone's problem your problem.

Once I learn that I have to win love and respect for others, I will never expect impossible things and I will never be disappointed. Others do not have to share their assets with their children, including feelings and thoughts.

If they spend them on you, that's because you've won these things. And I have enough reason to be proud of the love I deserve, the respect of my friends and the property I have earned. But don't take it for granted. If you do that, you will lose everything.They don't belong to you by default, you have to work hard to win them.

Dad's experience

An enormous burden has been lifted from his father's shoulders since the day he realized no one owed him anything. For a long time he thought his father had what he deserved and he made himself collapse - both physically and mentally - just to try to pick them up.

No one owes you moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, discipline or intelligence. And once Dad realized that, all relationships became very satisfying. Dad only focuses on the people who want to do something Dad wants to do.

This awareness helped my father get along well with friends, business relationships, partners, strangers and other issues. It kept reminding Dad that he could get what he wanted only if he could enter another person's world. Dad must try to understand what others think, what they believe is important and what they want. Only then can he convince someone in ways that will help him achieve what he wants.

Only then can my father understand whether he wants to be really attached to someone. And he can keep important relationships with people he has the most in common.

It was not easy to sum it up in a few words, but it took him many years to draw it. But maybe if you reread this gift every Christmas, its meaning will gradually become clearer over time.

I hope, what I want to give you more than anything else is that I can understand the simple truth - a truth that helps me to be free: No one owes you anything. "

An extremely meaningful and profound story. Please read it again and again if you don't understand them all. And from now on, if someone ever makes you sad, makes you unhappy or behaves with you the way you don't want to, smile, because they don't owe you anything.