The 'mouthful' statements of parents accidentally depress the child

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In this life, if anyone has become a parent, it will be understandable to the parents and parents who want their children to have the best and most fulfilling life so that they are not inferior to anyone. However, in this life, sometimes parents and children are hard to avoid conflicts, in moments of temporary anger, parents speak out words that accidentally hurt their children. .

To avoid hurting children, parents should note the following 4 words, no matter how angry or not, don't tell them because it can make them more depressed.

1. "I look at the children they see"

Comparing your child to someone else's family, or classmates is probably the habit of eating into the thoughts of most Vietnamese parents in their daily lives.

It is easy to see that parents always take 1 character 'children of people' even though it is unclear who they are, but according to parents, it is a good example, good people, good deeds. .what's good, is the norm to force your child to follow. However, most people do not notice that these comparative sentences are not maliciously silently hurt children deeply.

If this comparison keeps repeating in anything, it will make the child realize that, if I can't be like 'people,' my parents won't love me anymore. Bringing your deficiencies to compare with the advantages of others will make children become other people, gradually shrinking, inferiority, even denouncing their parents and 'their children'.

In fact, this comparison does not work for your children, it does not make you better. So, instead of comparing, parents should encourage their children to be confident in themselves so that they can do what they like, develop naturally.

2. "You are like that, you will not love me anymore"

Perhaps there is no love comparable to the love of parents for their children. And of course no one would ever 'not love me anymore' just because I had a defect.

However, many parents often bring their love to "threaten" children. Some people even joke with their children by saying:

"Son, but like that, she will not love me anymore, she will welcome you . to feed".

With a young soul, you will assume that your parents' affection for you is not much and not forever, it can change if you do something wrong, these actions of invisible parents create a fearful psychology for children, make children stay away from relatives.

3. "How many times have Bao not heard"

Sometimes young people will be stubborn and stubborn not listening to their parents. At such times most parents often tell their children:

"I have said it so many times, but I still never listen".

Want children to listen, should not use negative measures such as shouting loudly or spanking . All are useless, it will make children become stubborn, or can work in a way to deal with parents to finish the job.

Moreover, if you keep repeating the phrase "telling how many times and still not listening", children will be aware that they are such people, gradually become difficult to say and deliberately not listen to parents .

Instead of using commands to shout or yell at children, parents should explain to the child about the problem.

For example, when the child pulls toys to play, at mealtime, but the child refuses to collect the toys in the old place, instead of giving orders to the children, please gently tell the child, "good girl, when You should learn how to play toys so that the room becomes neat, when the neatly arranged toys are easier to find than in this mess, can you? Can you help me collect that toy in the old place? "

4. "Do it again for your parents"

Do you know the words are just unintentionally able to change children's preferences. For example, for a long time the children went to visit their grandparents, and their mother told them, 'I sang my song, my grandmother very well, I sang it to my grandparents today.'

In fact, children's actions and interests are temporary. But due to the encouragement of parents, children repeat that action many times.

Those words that seem to be so silly make children lose their orientation, making them do not know what they like and hate.

Parents need to be aware of "what they want" and "what they want". Instead of advising your child to do this, other things he wants, ask yourself the question: "Do you really like to do that?"

Nurturing and teaching children is a very important thing, but don't turn them into a pet by forcing this and that.

Let your children grow, stay true to their instincts to have a happy childhood!