Science proves: Father's bad mood seriously affects children's development

The famous German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once wrote: " Whoever does not have a good father should procure a father" (roughly translated: If you don't have a good father, find yourself a better father) .

Hundreds of studies have been conducted and the argument is certain that the father's love for the development of a child is as important as his mother's love, and sometimes even more .

In general, studies have shown that love - or parental rejection - greatly affects a child's behavior, self-esteem, psychological stability and mental health . According to Dr. Ronald P. Rohner, director of the Center for the Study of the Study of Parental Acceptance (Rejection and Rejection ) at the University of Connecticut, in some cases, the lack of affection, recognition and presence of fathers seem to play a big role in personality problems, psychological changes, errors and substance abuse in children.

Of course, when there is a father around, things will be different. The father's emotional presence helps children feel healthier, happier, and improve their physical and mental health. But these are just common theories. Most people recognize and recognize the influence of their father on their children.

The father's mental state directly affects their children

Scholars from Michigan State University (MSU ) have conducted a study and their findings not only emphasize the importance of father's role in the life of their children, but also proven that the father's mental state and mood have direct effects on their children in the short or long term.

In the study, researchers at Michigan State University collected data from 730 households participating in the Early Head Start pre-kindergarten preschool survey at multiple locations across the United States. Researchers focus on understanding the effects of stress and parents' mental health problems such as depression and anxiety that can directly affect children. They realize that stress levels and mental health problems affect how parents interact with their children, then their development.

One of the unexpected findings in this study is that the father's mental health causes long-term effects, directly related to the differences in children's social skills (such as self-control and cooperation) before the baby reaches the fifth grade. In fact, the father's sorrow in his early years has more influence on the development of children's skills in later life, compared to the mother's worries and sorrows.

The study also stressed that the fact that the stresses related to fatherhood and motherhood have a negative impact on children's cognitive and language development when children are 2-3 years old - even, even if the mother's presence brings positive effects. As expected, father's influence has a stronger impact on son's language development than daughter.

These findings are based on evidence and experience as a deep reminder that "Each father must be responsible for the mental health care of his child to nurture and promote the health of the children" .

The study also points to a positive point that many of the current scientific evidence suggests that fathers also play an important role as mothers in raising their children and their "pieces" in the picture. Family is also very important for the maturity of a child.

Change the mood of the father

Being a parent is a very stressful and difficult job, easily discouraging, especially for new parents. Here are some ways for fathers to minimize the negative effects on children when their moods are not good:

1. Accepting the fact that you will be stressed - Understanding and accepting stress is part of parenting and is the key to reducing the negative impact on your mood. If you expect it to happen and psychologically prepared, then you can proactively minimize the negative effects on your mood and reduce the number of negative reactions that You can reveal it.
2. Learn the cause and reduce stress as quickly as possible - Understanding yourself and learning how to tone yourself is the best way you can do for yourself. Find out which situations, thoughts or times make you feel the most stressed out. Can you avoid it? What can you do to prevent or minimize such moments? Take the time to "make a dad" and take part in activities that reduce stress like playing sports, doing the things you like, spending quiet time alone, taking a walk on the beach or visiting the forests.
3. Seek help - If you feel extremely stressed or have a history of depression, anxiety or mental illness, seek help from qualified people. It is really necessary for both you and your child. Think of "airplane safety model" . In the safety guide for passengers, you are instructed to wear your oxygen mask first, then help others around. The message here is that you cannot help others breathe if you are suffocating yourself.