Realizing these 12 facts, you will grow faster

If you say life is absolutely beautiful, it is a false statement. Because, just as H. Jackson Brown once said: "Remember that everyone is afraid of something, loves something and has lost something" - Remember that anyone you meet is afraid of something, love something there and also lost something - you don't know.

Unfortunately, not everyone was born who understood this problem. Even when she was growing up or like Libby Kane in the story below, after she graduated and embarked on a harsh working environment for more than 5 years, she realized the truth about the event. what exactly is life - "the things that I think I understand when I was 28 years old, nothing right now".

Here are 12 things that Libby Kane wants to share with us about the facts she understood after so many years of "rolling" in the midst of life, both in everyday life and in office.

1. There is nothing to be ashamed of

I never raised my hand to speak in class because I didn't want all eyes to look at me. I covered my ears, my face turned red when people sang their birthday. I feel shy.

One day, I wanted to try to get out of this feeling when I realized that shame could not be a baggage to grow up. A person who looks so bad not to say hello to an old acquaintance, silently in a meeting, speaks so small as if he is mumbling or his hands are soft and sweaty when others shake hands.

You will look poor, poor when too shy - while you completely improve that. I understand how embarrassing shame people will have to go through, however, when you are ashamed because you just want to be in your "safe zone", change it. before it's too late.

2. Nothing will change if you don't change anything

I often tell myself, whenever I have the opportunity to create a new horizon: a new project, new job, new apartment, new date.

If you want something different, step outside and look for it. You can also wait for a change to come to you, but you will have to wait a long time. And the truth is, chances are that such a chance is rarely a good opportunity.

Do not "open your mouth and wait", act so that the real opportunity will appear.

3. All is temporary

One truth you need to accept is that everything you have will change. That is, your youth, your work, your health, your mental state will all be different no matter how long you try to maintain it.

Some people will see this as a harsh law of life, but you should recognize this as a blessing. Because by realizing that life will not be good and favorable forever, you will have the attitude of gratitude for the luck that you have. On the other hand, if you are in a bad situation, you may also be more comfortable believing that you will not be in this situation forever, everything will gradually get better.

Live gratefully, have faith and learn to adapt to every situation.

4. The truth is finally revealed

Don't lie even if it's the smallest thing. Because certain truths will be exposed.

If you lie and still no one has discovered it yet, do not rush to celebrate, because there are still many more tomorrow that you do not know what will happen.

5. If you don't come, people won't invite you anymore

The most difficult thing is that you will still have to go to work every day no matter what you encounter in life. And the second difficult thing is that after putting effort into work, you have to use the remaining energy for life with relationships.

People will set up appointments, build relationships, do business with the names that appear in their heads first. Therefore, if you stick to the desk, do not participate in the meetings, you will be forgotten in everyone's mind. If you don't respond to invitations, at a time, people no longer invite you.

6. If you do not speak, others will not know what you want

Have you ever experienced a feeling of bewilderment when you find that, despite trying your best, are you still hated by others? You will prolong this question and condition until you frankly ask questions. Of course, they may not answer you but if you don't ask, you will never have an answer.

In the book "I Shouldn't Be Telling You This" , author Kate White said she had to recruit a new staff for the missing position. After completing the recruitment, Kate White heard rumors about an editor in the newsroom who was very dissatisfied with not being chosen for that position. "How do I know what she wants if she doesn't tell me?" Kate said.

If you want to achieve something at work, just working hard is not enough. Ask, ask what you want, otherwise your boss will not be able to know everything you need.

7. People are not as close to each other as you think

A colleague sitting right next to me in the office has almost 6 clothes for 1 month. Until the morning of the 25th, I sincerely praised her red dress to look pretty.

"You're kidding, I've worn it 10 times a month already , " answered the colleague in surprise. I did not recognize the activities of my colleagues, even with people right next to me. This means that people are always very busy with their lives and will not care about you as much as you think.

8. What you have is your choice

If you're always late, you're bad at geography, you're addicted to the phone, that's not your personality. That's just what you choose. It is very difficult for you to accept the advantages and disadvantages you have created by yourself, not by some destiny.

For example, if you are very bad at math, which means you have not tried your best to learn it, you can have it with the teacher but you have not done so. You can leave the house 15 minutes earlier, you can also learn to see a map, turn off the phone during dinner. If there is something that makes you unable to be proud of yourself, it is not destiny. You can change it.

9. You can take care of yourself

I realized this during my years of studying abroad. After two months of eating bread and drinking carbonated water, I felt that everything was bad. After all, I realized I didn't eat any vegetables the whole time. And I became interested in nutrition.

That is the first sign that I have to take care of myself. No one will let you eat, no one is sure that you will exercise, no one is your doctor or dentist anytime and anywhere. If you don't take care of yourself, no one will do it to help you.

10. Say it, you must do it

You will only accomplish the things you promise when you actually embark on it. Set the deadlines to get things done and set limits on your promises.

If you don't do something, don't say you will finish it. Nothing is worse than a person who is always disordered in work, the goal is left unfinished.

11. Want to have friendship in work, must work hard

We often talk about our age of friendship as the most beautiful friendship and surely you will not have such an easy, sincere friendship. Because of the social situation, work will not bring such a natural, sustainable friendship.

To establish a friendship at work, you need a lot of effort. You have to send messages, emails, express yourself at parties, coffee appointments. And in particular, your colleagues will quit, switch companies at any time and go to another place. Therefore, to keep or establish a friendship in the job requires your effort.

12. Action to produce action

Going to the gym will keep you going to the gym, going to travel will generate many trips, eating lots of vegetables will help you eat more vegetables and save money will save you more money.

The hardest thing to have a good, useful and fun habit is to start doing it. As long as you can start, everything will be very easy after that.

If you have not believed what I said, then continue to live your current way. Then one day, you will agree with me.