Narrator coder: I have conquered love and software in two ways that are more difficult to be contrary

My wife and I used to be colleagues at a software company. The first time I noticed her was when she accompanied the piano on the company's music show. A few days later, when our friends firmly asserted that "I work here without knowing AD, it fails too" , I officially know your name.

Those who have worked in software, studied software or even followed a technical discipline will know how terrible the "gender imbalance" situation is. A girl who is good looking, good at singing, and good guitar will surely have many people notice. I knew that before I fell in love, my wife had many people who liked it. People seem to care or even scream at the company that "I like you D." not a little.

Their mistake? Sawing in the right way the technical guy - "good steadfast good boy". Everyday ask. Yogurt every 2 days (even ask someone else to give it). Anonymously donate songs . Ready to help whenever you ask.

As for me, I "canopy" you thanks to 1 chat and 1 time to hang out. On my first chat (just adding my nick), I asked, "Are you a student of economics or a foreign language?"

"Why do you know that?"

"I see you hanging YouTube stt is a cover song, but I also often see only new economics students or share those songs on the face only."

A few days later, I made an appointment to go out for the first time. She was in the back of the car, I held my hand and firmly refused to give up until she said "Bro, this is not normal!" We started to 'learn' from there. 3 months later, she officially accepted to be my lover.

From then until now, I love her in a different, more sincere way. But the rule to defeat the other seven boys in the "learning" phase is very clear at first: it will be difficult for good boys to gradually sink. From the beginning, you must know that I have (a little) special (like you): both you and I are from "foreign language" within the technical environment, have the same musical taste.

And get used to it, I will not because "fear" of you as upset as many other gentle engineers that do not do what I want. In my mind - the same thought that made you like me, I deserve to hold your hand without asking permission.

I once intended to conquer software industry that way. When I graduated with a good degree, one of the students praised by the school, I thought I would be a very special software engineer. I believe that I will soon become a prominent person in the company.

As a result, a lot of times, I get frustrated because it takes all day just to . backward a decimal place or fix small interface bugs that really don't have any challenges at all. I once complained to my boss that when I got into the company, I only learned new technology once, and there were no 2-digit frameworks. There was another time when I was unhappy with having to code automation test instead of doing 'creative' code work as usual.

Then even English was never used because he was just a poor coder, not to work directly with customers. During many of my first projects, I felt warm-hearted for not being able to promote my 'special', not to do what I liked - what I deserved. I feel like I'm wasting both what I learned and my younger years.

Then I heard a saying that helped me change my view of position, my job: 'My job is actually not difficult, does not require you to be smart and excellent. Just work hard, accumulate gradually, and one day you will become a good person '.

This 'truth', it was not until I was able to directly guide my juniors to practice. I suddenly realized that, in the first few years, I had accumulated skills that the school could not teach in one or two courses: from big issues like load balancing to dividing jaws to people coming. After that, it doesn't take all day to translate decimal numbers, from 'life-long' things like code so that testers don't spend much time on small errors to email apologies to customers because . you guys misunderstanding user manual written by me.

Turns out, my job is not always a complex algorithm of the 20-sided rubik solution or the "great" PowerPoint slides to brag myself. On the contrary, mastering the position of outsourcing engineer is just a long process of accumulation so that someday become a prop for customers, for the team and for the boss.

Then I thought back to the business aspects I hated the most. Code automation test and the process of working with fastidious testers have turned me into a careful person. Having to work with old technologies makes me forced to understand that technology is just fleeting, solution thinking is eternal. What my boss, the client I need is an engineer with that mindset, not a student of red confidence.

Then, when I absorbed the meaning and completed well the small tasks, I received the trust from my boss. The scope of work extends from a function, a package, a module into a project, a system. It's normal to write emails to customers or even go abroad to work with them.

This is where our "special" confidence is brought into full play: with international customers, Vietnamese people can afford to build the most complex systems.

I am writing this article not to advise you guys "not" to be nice to your girlfriend ": when going through the conquest stage to think about love and marriage, you will need to really love and also It will take a lot of patience to prove to her that you are a solid prop. Love, that patience cannot be measured by just one cup of yogurt a day. But I also think you understand the "tip". "In my love story: first of all, be confident, be brave and force her to recognize you as her special person.

As for software, understand that the best, safest direction is to be dedicated to each job, with every thing you dislike in the first place. Yes, you are in a very intellectual environment, needing courage and confidence. But above all, your career is like every software system, like a house built from solid small caps.