5 important things to remember after parting

1. Love is to be happy, forget about your past relationship and keep looking for happiness!
2. 57 ways to help you easily overcome the pain after parting
3. True happiness is not in others but in ourselves!

When you were a child, did you try to swim the entire length of the pool without taking a breath? Slowly swim in the water with a deliberate frog swim, try your best to reach the other side of the shore?

Parting is the same. Navigate your emotions in a way that feels like wading slowly with a large and seemingly unmovable mass, all of which makes the chest " explode ". It is a pain. And almost all of us have to go through that feeling. Or if you haven't experienced it before, you're lucky.

Breaking up - just so many words make us feel extremely painful just like " dying and resurrecting " after so many happy days. Plan to go away or dream about the house and the future children seem to disappear in a moment. You do not know what to do when suddenly a day lacks a daily person who is still beside her.

There are people who have experienced it. More than once, even two, means there are still less fortunate people, but there is enough life experience to give useful advice to others.

I - the author of the article, suddenly realized this when I recently met a friend when she broke up. After a night out and drinking alcohol, tears started to fall. We talked, shared experiences and had wry smiles, she cried more and more, then we felt too tired and could not say anything more. This makes me think about the farewell, the emotional whirlwind and the stages you have to go through before reaching the other side. And you will advance to the other side. Here are 5 important things to remember after breaking up, helping you improve your mood. Invite you to welcome reading!

1. You must pass it, but not today

You are allowed to be sad yourself . Maybe right now you feel everything is bad, like falling into a deep pit of despair and deadlock, no one understands you, the most important person also leaves you. You blame yourself for not keeping that person, thinking that you can't go through lonely days with broken hearts.  

People often say that ' time will heal wounds ' and you need to overcome it. Although this is theoretically true, you should also allow yourself to take the time to mourn the loss. Sad. Immerse yourself. Watch sad movies and cry. Always complain to neighbors, who are forced to listen and love you unconditionally ( like your parents, siblings, and close friends ).  

If you want to cry, just cry, want to be weak or torture yourself anyhow, but then look at the mirror yourself.Look, who's next to you when you're sad. Cherish the present, because the past is still the past! Accept the present so that when you step back in the past, it doesn't hurt you.  

Breaking up is a loss of pain and it is an " obvious " pain, meaning grief is an important part when you want to overcome it. You have to change and time will heal the wound, but if the breakup takes place, you need to have time to allow yourself to " renew ".Just an extension does not last too long.

Just live for today and tomorrow, everything will gradually stabilize. Don't force yourself to get through in a day or two!

2. Application for the lost heart

For those who have just experienced a bad separation, they must have the following symptoms: talking about the person constantly with friends, obsessed with checking the posts of ex-lover on social networks or trying to Try to touch your ex in a purposeful way.

If you think your sadness has been immune to technological advances, you have made a sad mistake. I learned this from a new friend, they mentioned " heartbreak app - the application for the lost love " several times in a tearful conversation.

"Mend" application - every day it asks you, you canclear your mind without fear of disturbing anyone.After daily training sessions, the application will report on your progress.So, gradually over the weeks you will review how your process has improved.

Besides,this application also has a private community, you can read the posts of other members sharing about overcoming pain along with questions and questions for those who have just experienced by parting.On the contrary, speak out your thoughts, there will be people who are in the same situation and speak up and you have new friends to share every day!

If only those applications were available when I was in the early years of my twenties, then I would have overcome it more easily. It seems like a stupid thing but this tool can help regulate the mood more effectively .

3. Detox "social network"

During the conversation, I always mentioned the current life of my ex, at least 3 times. When asked how she knew this, she answered as I expected: Instagram. I remember my first farewell on Facebook. I watched my ex - who liked everything online - started dating a new girl, introduced her to her family, always accompanied her, married her, moved to another place to live with She and they have children together. It was like a knife stabbing into my heart slowly. And it makes the process of forgetting him become longer and more difficult.Stop following old friends with your ex . They are like a kind of ' primer ' and you need to check the relationship on that social network.

Love yourself more, go there - places that have never been to experience and enjoy the new taste of life. Do not put your feelings on Facebook, Instagram, . with the aim of pulling your old lover. They don't care about you anymore, so they break up!

The words of goodbye are not in the moment, but they can be said. Remember that we used to write our own diaries, not for everyone, so if we were sad, we would cry for them!

4. Accept the truth

Someone once told me that if a person is not suitable for you, it is true and you cannot resist it, so try to accept it. I found comfort for this difficult love. It is like a simple but meaningful concept. You may be sad to realize that the person is not suitable for you and even so many different things, the reality is reality. Accepting that your ex is not suitable for you as an absolute fact can quickly end the " healing " process or at least change the mental state to see the situation in a new way.

What needs to be done is to eliminate the thought of "that person will come back to me " or " lovers will come back together ". Facing the truth, people no longer love you, their hearts do not belong to you anymore, how useless or painful you are. You don't need to forget it yet but let it go slowly . Stop abusing yourself by stopping looking for lost opportunities to heal love , this is not possible, you know it?

5. Time is a mental medicine

In the end, what that friend said was that the healing time was right. You are not ready to hear that, but it is true. Schedule a trip or go to a restaurant that has something you like with your friends. We have more things to care about, don't let adolescence pass by waste. Time will "corrode" all , then you will see: I stand up to the next stumbling block is a wonderful and spectacular thing! Go ahead, be strong! They still live well, why can't you?

Love, not from one side is enough ! We still met each other, people called " charming without debt ", please hold on to something good in your heart, not because of a little bit of bout of patience but become " a stop "!

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